Giving Love to Those Who Hurt Us

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This morning, I reflected on how differently I feel about my relationships with others since engaging in my emotional healing work, and forgiving my father recently.  Just in the past three months, I have embraced compassion, forgiveness, and taken responsibility for my own behaviors.  My relationships with others have deepened and changed dramatically.  I finally have learned to forgive, and give compassion to those who have hurt me.

For example, I was summoned into my supervisor’s office where I was accused of wrongdoing that was reported by someone at my work. Instead of becoming defensive and argumentative as my old self, I was very calm, made factual statements about the situation raised by my supervisor, and took responsibility for my part of this situation.  When I was told who reported this incident, I understood that this person was trying to save his own job, and I forgave him for his actions.

More recently, I heard that this person at my work has been asked to leave his position.  Upon hearing this, I went to his office to offer my support and wish him well in his future endeavors.  In fact, he asked me to serve as a work reference that I agreed to do for him.  Since doing this spiritual work, and becoming more compassionate toward others, I have found that I really like people even if they appear difficult on the surface.  Everyone has goodness within them, and now I am able to see this better.

Those who hurt us need love more than others, because of the hurt and pain they carry inside them.  Through compassion, we can choose to give love to those who hurt us.  I am grateful for my new found perspective and understanding of myself and others.  Spirituality is bringing this awareness into our lives and developing this new found perspective for our reality. Blessings and love to you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

 

4 responses to “Giving Love to Those Who Hurt Us”

    1. I am honored by your reblog of my post. Blessings, Brooke

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  1. Thank you for these words of wisdom. Today I was deeply hurt by somone I love and it made me pretty sad for the rest of the day. I want to learn how to let go of resentment.

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    1. Hi Pepper, Thank you for visiting my blog and reading my post. I can share how I overcome my resentments. The first step is compassion. Compassion is understanding why someone may hurt us. Many times we are hurt by another because of the hurt and pain within the other. If we can understand the hurt in others and see their perspective then we can begin to overcome our resentments of them. Once we have compassion for them, then we can begin to forgive them for their behaviors toward us. I also look at my own actions in the situation and take responsibility for my own behaviors. After you’ve had time to do the above, and if this person is someone you can talk openly to, then I would engage in dialogue with them about your feelings. During the dialogue, use “I feel” statements instead of “you” statements, and remember to give them forgiveness after your conversation. Good luck! Blessings and love, Brooke

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