PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

I received some questions from readers about how to leave relationships and our past behind.   Many speak of being betrayed by their lovers who ran off with someone else, others speak of their lovers having multiple partners without their consent, some speak of being abused in relationships, and other dysfunctional situations.  I have no proven answers, but what I can say is that as a victim for most of my life, the first step is understanding the power to change this is within us.

In my earlier posts, I talked extensively about healing our emotional wounds so we no longer attract others who hurt us, but what do we do in the mean time before we have healed our emotional landscapes?  As victims of hurt and abuse, we believe that others hurt us, and somehow we are helpless in this situation.The reality is that we have the power to change this within us.  It is coming to this realization and working from this premise that we are able to get out of this cycle of abuse and dysfunctional relationships.

 Essentially, we teach others how to treat us, and we serve as their teacher in this regard. If we have been mistreated instead of complaining about or judging others treatment of us, state very clearly without anger how you wish to be treated, forgive them and ourselves, and follow up with actions. For instance, if you do not wish to be cheated on, then let them know your wishes, forgive them for cheating, and ask them not to return by letting them go.  We must follow up with our actions to be taken seriously. The difficult part comes afterwards when we must do the internal work to follow through.  What keeps us from following through is our own fear of being alone or lonely, the fear of being unworthy of being loved, and the fear of inadequacy about ourselves.

This is when the hard work begins. I recommend emotional release practice to help cope with these emotions when they arise.  Be very conscious and aware that when you feel these emotions, it is the work of your ego, and it is not you!  You can choose to react to these fears or not.  As soon as these emotions arise, observe it, and allow it to pass.  Acknowledge these emotions for what they are, but do not identify with them as you will react upon this identification.  Please click on the tab, “Emotional Release Practice” on my Blogsite homepage for more details.

When you make your wish known to yourself and others, you will finally get your wish in your life.  Please understand that these are my practices, so take what you find helpful here for your practice. Healing light, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)