PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

As we recovery emotionally, I find that we tend to attract more and more healthier people into our lives, and we begin to find others like ourselves with similar sets of values and behaviors that may still be new for us.  Emotional recovery means we learn healthy boundaries when we no longer allow others to violate our personal and emotional space, and we ask to be treated with respect and honor.  We learn non-attachment or emotional detachment where we no longer engage in dependency relationships with others, and begin to practice healthier relationship dynamics.

During the course of my emotional recovery, I have observed my own blinders in identifying behaviors that were unhealthy, since I never learned healthy boundaries through my family.  I did not know any other way, since unhealthy boundaries were all that I experienced.  In my life now, I am surrounding myself with friends and coworkers who respect these healthy boundaries as others who do not practice this clearly disagrees with this way of behaving.

We need to accept within ourselves that those who do not practice our new way of being and behaving will disagree with us.  The best way to address these disagreements is just to agree to disagree with them, and to acknowledge that we have chosen differing paths.  There is no judgment here by taking differing paths for we have chosen what is best for our lives. This has taken me a long time to accept within myself, as I have always wanted my parents and others to experience a healthier emotional life.

Realizing that we cannot rescue and save our families and others, as much as we love them, is a difficult part of emotional recovery.  The truth is that each of us must make that decision for ourselves in order to change our lives, and by accepting this, we then allow them to take responsibility for their own lives. May you find peace with this, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)