PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

In the spiritual community, there is much discussion about tolerance and acceptance of others.  I would like to distinguish between tolerance and acceptance of others for purposes of coexistence and choosing them as our friends.  There is a big distinction between these two things.  In an non-egoic world, we can all coexist, since we no longer engage in ego battles with others, and jealousy, envy, resentment, anger, and greed would be a thing of the past.  However, when do we consider these individuals our trusted friends?

In order to allow others within our trusted circle, there are additional factors to consider than tolerance of another.  They must possess characteristics that we share, admire, and respect in our friendships.  For example, I look for loyalty, honesty, kindness, courage, and genuineness.  There are many in this world who we tolerate and accept as they are although we do not admire or respect them.  They may be coworkers, neighbors, acquaintances, and even relatives.

However, I do not consider these individuals my friends.  Friends are people we allow into our inner circle of trust.  Since I grew up in a dysfunctional family, I have had great difficulties choosing my friends, and I allowed many, who did not deserve, to enter my inner circle of trust.  As I began to heal my emotional wounds from my past, I am choosing my friendship very carefully now.  Because my self-esteem has improved, I do not need to be everyone’s friend and do not need for everyone to be mine.  Sending love and light to you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)