PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

These past few months have been about learning the reality of forgiveness.  This is what I have learned. Forgiveness is setting free the person who hurt us, and it means letting them go from our lives.  It really does not matter if the person has changed their behaviors or feelings toward us or not.

Recently, I forgave a man who has repeatedly injured and hurt me for many lifetimes and even up to recently. He never truly changed his behaviors toward me as he continued to be dishonest, hid me from others in his life, and took advantage of my kindness.  Each time, I took him back because I believed that he had changed, and I needed to do this to show compassion as a spiritual being.

Forgiveness does not mean we need to take anyone back into our lives.  When we repeatedly allow others to remain in our lives when they truly have not changed their behaviors toward us and continue to hurt us, it is abuse and mistreatment.  When we forgive, we actually let that person go from our lives, accept what happened between us, and free ourselves from the hurt, pain, resentment, and anger we have toward the other.

I am finally learning the difference between forgiveness and mistreatment. The key to true forgiveness is to let go of those who hurt us and finally set them free. We then must forgive ourselves for allowing them to hurt us. May you learn true forgiveness in your life, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)