PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

While visiting a friend recently, she asked me to share my life story.   As we sat in the serene Japanese tea house that her husband built, I began to tell her the story of my successes and losses of my life.  As I told my story, I tried to be very factual and just share the timeline without much emotions.  What my friend said really surprised me. She shared that she observed a pattern in my life involving my romantic relationships.

She said that she noticed that I met men who lived far away, or eventually moved far away, and then I would uproot my life to be with them.  This pattern has occurred two times in major relationships in my life.  In each one, they ended unsuccessfully.  When I returned home, I began to reflect upon this pattern and recognized that I had been in co-dependent relationships with these people.

With each men, I had obstacles of great distances between us or other hurdles that I attempted to overcome.  Instead of allowing those relationships to end naturally, I hung on in the hope of keeping these relationships going.  In each situation, I was unable to stand alone without the emotional or financial support of these people as I was afraid.  We each have patterns in our lives, whether it is to save someone else, save ourselves, or find the first safe harbor for security.

The most important part of breaking the same behavioral and/or emotional patterns is to first recognizing our pattern.  Is what is happening today merely repeating what had happened earlier in our lives?   When we repeat the same patterns, the same results will occur.  Patterns occur in our lives, and maybe even lifetimes to help our souls learn life lessons.  May you break your patterns, and learn your life lessons. (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)