PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

This weekend, I met with my friend who also is on a spiritual journey, and we shared our respective journeys as we had not seen each other for some time.  We got to talking about being raised in dysfunctional families. She has been working on her emotional issues involving her family dynamic that caused fight or flight responses in her when she was a child.  She experienced, as I did, much chaos, turmoil, and drama in her family with lots of arguments, conflicts, and disagreements.

When we are raised in dysfunctional dynamics, we begin to become habituated to fight or flight hormones in our bodies.  When we become habituated to these hormones, it feels very much like drug addiction, in that we need certain levels of these hormones in our bodies to feel normal.  The easiest way to raise these hormones is by engaging in verbal or physical altercations with others.

How she described it is that our bodies become irritated or feel agitated, and require these hormones to feel normal or comfortable. As such, we begin creating chaos, drama, and fights with others to cause secretion of these hormones in our bodies.  After these fights, our physical bodies feel satisfied, and we even forget that we had such a fight with another.

This then becomes a cycle of behavior in our lives by instigating conflicts, fights, and arguments with others, then forgetting about it as if it never happened, and repeating this cycle.  When we meet others with the same needs for these hormones, we have found the perfect partners for our lives who share these repeated cycles of chaos and drama with us.  Sometimes, we can even set a clock by these episodes of conflicts with others.

Awareness is the first step in overcoming this form of addiction.  I am attempting to heal my wounds so that I no longer need these additional hormones in my body to feel normal.  However, while I am still healing, I have used coping skills to deal with the physical addictions of these hormones by exercising, practicing relaxation, meditating, body work, and emotional release work.

Try these above techniques when you feel the need to start arguments or fights, or feel physical and emotionally agitated.  Let me know how this work for you!  (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)