When I began my spiritual work, the first thing I was told was to learn to forgive. When others hurt me, I forgave them and let go of the hurt. As a result, I took them back. The same person would repeat the same behaviors toward me and hurt me nearly the same way. This cycle repeated for me, particularly with men. This is called the cycle of abuse, and not the intention of forgiveness.
In some spiritual teachings, there is much passivity and always being positive. To truly live on our spiritual path, we must live a conscious life through truth of our reality. After walking down the wrong path, I realized that we must learn to forgive, but then we let them go. The biggest lesson for me is DO NOT REPEAT!
The purpose of forgiveness is so we no longer stay connected to those who injured us, and we are able to move on with our lives. It is not for the purpose of allowing the mistreatment or abuse to continue by taking them back. Therefore, forgive, let go, and do not repeat is my mantra now. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with all rights reserved)
Pathway to Joy and Healing 
You missed one…you cannot release it till you UNDERSTAND it.
Until you understand WHY it is causing you pain, how can you release it?
All else is just avoiding and blocking, and the wall stays exactly as you’ve built it.
And attracting it again WILL happen until you go right into your heart and truly see why you react the way you do to those situations.
And those treatments by others is given with great love, so you can understand them, realise they are a continuing cycle so that you CAN see them for what they are, and let them go, truly forgiving others as you can now see why they occurred.
And they are built from those treatments as a child, treatments that build a rejection and low self worth, but because as a child your coping strategies are very emotionally immature because of your age, you just build a wall, block that hurt because of the pain, and not truly understand it. We then carry that on into adulthood, struggling with it in many ways.
But it isn’t until we are forced to face it, in those moments of struggle as we are forced to look within, that it will finally bring that understanding and enlightenment forward and allow us to finally ‘see’ it, understand it, and let it go truly.
Even then we really try to avoid it….who wants to face their pain…but it IS in facing it that it IS understood, and can then be released.
When it is understood it no longer causes the pain anymore, and as it no longer ‘attacks’ you any more, there is no longer any reason to hold it, it no longer has any power over you.
You are free 🙂
Great post, thank you for sharing.
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Thank your sharing your wonderful insights and wisdom. For those of us who experienced childhood abuse, we associate and confuse this abuse with love, and thus, the attraction to it. Your comments are right on point. Thank you for sharing. Light and peace!
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