The Second Choice

13267925_1003536413068955_3422062978101002385_n.At some point in our lives, we become someone’s second choice or backup plan.  When we finally acknowledge that is who we are, it is a sad moment.   They string us along waiting for the first choice to come around.  If we see and believe our own worth, we will leave this relationship as it is disrespectful and hurtful to us.

This happen to me as I was strung along while the man I dated waited for his first choice who was married to come around.  I finally walked away because I know my own worth, and I did not deserve to be treated with such disrespect.   This woman constantly interfered with and tried to control our relationship through her telephone calls, texts, and Facebook comments.  It became ridiculous!

The irony is that this married woman’s husband finally left her for another woman with two sweet boys, and appears to be very happy and in love now.  I am so happy for his man who deserves a wife who treats him as a priority and not as a backup plan.   This is what this man and I had in common and is our shared experience.

I have learned my lesson to stay away from such destructive and disrespectful behaviors. Actually, this was a great service to my spiritual growth.  Now, I recognize when a man treats me like a second choice or backup plan.  Not only do I recognize it, I walk away from it immediately.  Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.  I will never voluntarily engage with any individuals like this again.

I do not hold a grudge with these two individuals as I have forgiven them for they know not what they do and want to be free of them. I have forgiven them, but have not forgotten as this is the great life lesson I learned.  In the end, they will destroy themselves as they do not need my help.

My life has significantly improved and is getting better every day since I distanced myself from them over a year ago.   This is what I have learned.  Let go of things and people who do not serve your higher path, and learn self love and your worth. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)

Author: Brooke Chang

Hi, I'm Brooke who will be taking you on a healing journey to a more joyful life. I will serve as your guide on this healing journey sharing my insights, knowledge and experiences. I hope you will join me!

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