As I reflect on my current circumstances in life, I have come to understand the connection between forgiveness and expectations out of outcome. Let me explain. As a child I was sexually and physically abused by my father. Throughout my adult life, I wanted vengeance and what I believe is a ‘fair outcome’ for someone like my father.
Many men were brought into my life who were either predators themselves or supported or enabled predators to injure others, including children. Through these individuals, I needed to learn my life lessons. What I did learn is that forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting our past or the events that harmed us. These lessons were meant to teach us something important about ourselves and how to love ourselves.
The most important part of forgiveness is that we give up and let go of expectations of outcome that never came into fruition for us earlier. It is this letting go of the Expectations of outcome that allows us to forgive and move on without carrying these burdens with us along our journey forward. This will give us true peace.
This part of forgiveness has been the hardest spiritual work I have had to do thus far. However, I feel I am reaching this closer and closer each day. When I accomplish this, I will finally be able to move forward and finally leave my emotional pain behind me. (Copyright 2018 awakening journey with all rights reserved)
Pathway to Joy and Healing 
Unforgiveness (and hatred also) are poisons you give yourself, hoping someone else will die.
From my “Useful Healthful Tips” post:
Forgiveness – Just remember, forgiveness is for the forgivER, not the forgivEN. You release YOURSELF by forgiving. And one of the beautiful things about this is that it then doesn’t even matter if someone actually wronged you in some way or if you just think / feel they did.
But you don’t need to say your forgiveness TO them. Remember, it’s not about them, it’s about you. The only way it becomes or continues to be about them has to do with how you treat them because you think they’ve done you wrong. If you’re holding a grudge against someone, even if it’s just at an energetic level, that will put a strain on your relationship if you are still around this person.
Now, just come up with your own personal short, generic affirmation that you can say any time forgiveness is in order. One affirmation that I used was “I forgive you and release you. There is no forgiveness that I withhold. My forgiveness for you is total. I am free and you are free.”
If it is you yourself who you feel needs forgiveness, then forgive yourself. Someone else’s forgiveness of you is THEIR business, not yours. You can’t force them to forgive you. If you did screw up with them, then just apologize and let them tend to the forgiveness.
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Hello Brooke… how strange that I should also write my last post about forgiveness too! I love the way you say its all about discovering ways to love ourselves… as loving ourselves allows us to finally step out of the Human game of duality and enjoy our life! So I was wondering if you would like to join us again co-creating part 3 of our awakening/ascension journey and where we find ourselves now. Are you up for it again? you can read here my post about it.http://memymagnificentself.com/2018/09/17/a-selection-of-true-awakening-stories-part-iii/ much love to you x Barbara x
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Thank you for inviting me. I would love to join part 3 of awakening/ascension journey! Please let me know when I should submit my post! Much love to you, Brooke
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How wonderful Brooke… please pick a date that’s left and publish your post on your own website with the title and link back to my post. Thankyou x
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Hi Barbara, I wasn’t sure how to link my post to your post, but here is my post for October 14, 2018: https://serpentguide.wordpress.com/2018/10/14/the-art-of-letting-go/
Sending love, Brooke
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This is the link you can best use at the beginning of your beautiful post… http://memymagnificentself.com/2018/09/17/a-selection-of-true-awakening-stories-part-iii/
I’ve just read it, you are doing such great work and love your writing contribution, Thanks so much. Much love Barbara x
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