Losses Along Our Journey

Article by Brooke Chang, Pathway to Joy and Healing

On our spiritual journeys, we experienced many losses along the way. I’m on the 12th year of my journey, and have experienced many losses on this path. I believe losses are an inevitable part of the healing and growth process. As we heal, our vibrational frequency change and become higher. This is the growth that we experience through changes in our behaviors and choices we make that are for our higher good. Another development is that we attract different people into our lives since like frequencies, attract like frequencies. Unfortunately, we also are no longer attracted to those we earlier attracted, since they no longer vibrate at our frequency.  As such, the earlier attraction falls away.

During my journey, I left an earlier marriage, changed my career, and found my life’s purpose. These changes were the result of my emotional healing and growth process. This process also prepared me to meet my current husband who is my soulmate, and for a career that allowed me to help many college students with emotional traumatic injuries. As a result of this healing and growth, I feel happier and more at peace, and finally found my pathway forward.

Many friendships and relationships from earlier periods of my life fell away.  Frequently, it was not I who left the friendship, but it was my friends who no longer felt comfortable around me.  I no longer exhibited the needy, injured, and victimized soul with whom they had become familiar.  My healthier boundaries, demand for respectful treatment, and taking back my power by taking responsibility for myself, made them uncomfortable. In other words, we had outgrown each other. The losses, nevertheless, were still painful and difficult.

One friend, who I met a decade ago when I was just beginning my spiritual journey, was kind and caring toward me because she had suffered greatly in her life as well. Her understanding and compassion helped me during that time. However, a decade later, I am substantially stronger and more healed, but my new found strength and health didn’t necessarily resonate with her, and our opinions conflicted. Our perspective differed and the approach to our lives diverged. It is so hard let go, but this process allows us to further ascend. Many may feel compelled to revert back to their former selves to maintain these relationships, but deep down we know it is not for our highest good. As we navigate on our spiritual journeys, we know forward is the direction we must travel.

Many of my earlier friendships and romantic relationships also were illusory. My earlier emotional needs created these illusions because I did not feel worthy or strong enough, and feared being alone. Nearly in all these relationships, I was the person making plans, sending gifts, emailing, and texting to maintain the relationships over the years.  The truth is that they never were reciprocal relationships or one that I’m willing to accept today.

We can’t hang on to our past and move forward at the same time, because this baggage becomes too heavy for us to carry forward. It is this healing-letting go-growing-ascension process that propels us forward and helps us ascend on our spiritual journeys. The fear of letting go only keeps us stuck in the same emotional state. It is this fear that prevents us from living this new life we deserve. Send unconditional love to those you let go, since this letting go simply is accepting what is in our awakened reality. (Copyright 2023 Brooke Chang with all rights reserved.) 

In Languid Night


My heart is at peace,

In languid night.

Awaiting serenity not far behind.

As I slumber, visions are clear,

My future unfolds,

In my hands I hold.

Fears far away,

Waving farewell.

No one can harm me,

And no one to tell.

It is not destiny or fate,

For all past hurts, I no longer hate.

The ghost of maiden,

Only an illusion.

Forever free, my own bondage abates,

Onto the horizon, my future awaits.

(Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)

Perspective of Our Journey

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I have traveled such a long way on my journey that began many lifetimes ago. Along the way, I have met those who do not understand my journey.  As we appear to have taken differing paths, we have conflicts.  I am beginning to understand that  everyone’s path is different.  There are no right or wrong paths, but they twist and winds on its way forward.

It is our egos who insist on being right.  Each day, I am letting go of the need to be right.  We will all figure out our paths, and live with our own decisions, outcomes, and actions.  There should be no judgment, as we are all where we should be in this moment.

Some are ahead of us and some are behind us, but the path is not linear, so they may be traveling on another plane appearing to be the opposite of us.  From our perspectives, we appear to be different, but are we?  The next time, we judge others remember this:

spiritual illusion

It’s all in our perspectives.  May we honor and respect others through compassion, tolerance, and peace. (Copyright 2015 Spiritual Journey with All Rights Reserved)

The Amazing Beyond


Beyond emotional wounds and hurt is this amazing place where the world is synchronized and events result in the highest and perfect for me.  I have crossed the threshold into this beyond.  The trees look fuller, the grass is greener, the sky is clearer, and I experience heaven on earth.  The pain and hurt of the past appear as a glimmer of an old memory like a faded photograph from long ago.

It all seems like a miracle really.  My job at the college where I work is becoming the job that I had hoped and imaged when I first applied and was offered this position.  Old obstacles are falling away, and allies come to my assistance and support.  My new home is warm, inviting, and welcoming to my friends who visit.  It is my sanctuary where I replenish, rest, and rejuvenate.  My personal life is synchronized in that as I think of others, they appear shortly thereafter, and when I wish for an outcome, it happens shortly after.

I am inviting this light, synchronicity, and readiness into my life now, with amazing results and wonderful outcomes.  This is the life that I have dreamed about. When I work hard, I am rewarded. When I love, my love is returned.  When I give, I am given.  When I support others, I am supported.  I believe I am living in my highest now where peace rules my life, and joy is the foundation of each day.

If someone told me that this would be the reward for the hard emotional work of facing my demons and my childhood trauma, I would not have believed it was possible.  My world is opened now to countless possibilities, wonder, and awe. May you find your heaven on earth.  Blessings of love! (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)