PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

I have been a codependent all my life, and recently, I have chosen to give it up. Codependency is an addiction no different than drug, alcohol, or sex addiction. Codependency is a form of attachment based on fear and need created by ego.  We become codependent caused by our childhood experiences of abuse, abandonment, neglect, fear, and the like.  We could have experienced these emotional issues in earlier lifetimes as well resulting in karma in our present lives.

What I have observed in myself and others is that codependency can occur in relationships, such as marriages, friendships, dating, and even at work. We become codependents with those who feed our addiction to get our needs met.  Since we do not have the emotional resources within to get our needs met, we must seek others to meet these needs externally.

The most common manifestation of codependency is dysfunctional behaviors such as extramarital affairs, cheating on our partners, and betraying our friends.  We engage in these behaviors not because we are terrible people, but because we have no other means of meeting our needs and coping with attachment.  Attachment is not love, it is dependency. In fact, in attachment we take from others, while love is giving to others.

The first step to overcoming codependency and attachment is to have awareness of our behaviors, and what is occurring in our lives. Once we become aware, we must make a conscious decision of positive change to heal those injured and wounded parts of us that drive this addiction.  Once we heal them, we can engage in healthier and more functional relationships. May you find healing in your life. ~ Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)