PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

I have been struggling with some emotional hurdles recently over a relationship, and feel completely lost about what to do.  As I sat with my girlfriends over dinner sharing stories of love lost, and missed opportunities, I asked my friends what they have done to resolve the pain of grief and loss.

One friend told me a story of how she lost the love of her life when he couldn’t move from his hometown to be with her.    As a result, she broke off the romantic relationship.  With many years with a broken heart, she said what she finally did was to turn all this pain and hurt over to God, essentially giving up all the pain within her.  Her statement sounded profound to me.  That’s the answer to all our fears, worries, and anxieties over outcomes we cannot control!

We simply turn control over to a higher power.  In other words, we say to ourselves, “I cannot control this situation, I want the Universe to take care of me in my situation.”  When ego cannot control outcome, it starts to send messages of fear, worry, and anxiety.  Ego struggles and struggles to take back control from others by acting out our fears, worries, and anxiety, usually by getting upset, angry, or attacking others.

In order to overcome ego, we must learn surrender.  Surrender is essentially the admission to ourselves that we cannot control the outcome of our situation, whether it is a romantic relationship, applying for a job, or applying to college or a program.  In other words, it’s when others make decisions that effect our lives.

This is what surrender feels like.  It’s like when we are arm wrestling with someone.  We struggle and struggle to attempt to push our opponent’s arm down. When we arm wrestle someone stronger than us, eventually we admit defeat by letting go of the struggle and letting our arm be pushed down by our opponent.  Surrender feels like letting go of that struggle and allowing our arm to be pushed down.  This is what surrender feels like to me.

Once we surrender, the pain and hurt from our struggle simply cease. We admit defeat, and our pain and suffering subside. I am feeling a sense of peace and calmness today, instead of pain and sadness, and I still feel great love and affection for the other.  Try this exercise with a situation where you cannot control your outcome, and see how it works for you. Good luck, and sending peace to you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)