PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

Adults who are the victims of childhood abuse must overcome shame.  Shame is a complex emotion in that it takes a normally positive feeling, and makes it negative.  For instance, we have shame over sex in our society.  Sex in itself is a healthy and necessary part of human experience, since we would not be in existence if not for sex between our parents, but our society has wrapped sex with shame.

For those of us who have experienced childhood abuse, this shame is placed on us by the very people who abused us.  Abused children are frequently blamed for the abuse in that we are told we are the cause of our own abuse.  This shame becomes part of our emotional landscape.  Sadly, many of us suffer and are unable to experience pleasure in our lives due to feeling shame and feeling responsible for our own abuse.

Overcoming shame takes understanding what shame is that is taking a normally healthy experience and making it negative.  As a result, we associate this healthy and necessary life experience with something negative and bad.  The feeling that we have toward ourselves is disappointment.

When we have shame and disappointment in ourselves, we have blockage in the third chakra or the Solar Plexus chakra. Strategies in balancing the third chakra is risk taking, grounding, emotional contact, deep relaxation, stress control, vigorous exercise, sit-ups, and psychotherapy (release or contain anger, build ego strength, work on shame issues, strengthen will). Infinite love and light, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)