PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

During my recent emotional healing work, I have been contemplating what makes us feel lonely or lacking.  In the past, I felt extraordinary, heart wrenching loneliness.  It has taken me awhile to figure this out, but loneliness stems from the need to fulfill our desires to our attachments.  For instance, earlier when I depended on another to love me and complete my life, I felt terrible yearning and desire to be with the one I love when he was away from me.

Loneliness or the feeling of lack is the result of needing to fulfill our desires to our attachments, whether that is a person or something else we cannot have.  In Buddhism, there is the concept of giving up desires to our attachments, and this is the lesson that I recently learned.

As I began to heal my emotional wounds, I am finding independence and sufficiency for myself and filling that loneliness and lack with activities and interaction with others that bring me joy and happiness without attachments to those things.  For instance, I spend time with many different people and not with a single person, and I do many different activities.  By example this weekend, I had dinner with a friend who was having a rough week at work, went rock climbing and lunch with another friends, and went to my group tango dance lesson.

For Saturday night, a friend contacted me about going out to listen to music, but when she failed to text me back to confirm, I made alternative plans to go salsa dancing and dinner with other friends.  In the past, I would have been offended or upset as this friend failed to text me back, but now I no longer live with attachment to any one person, so I was able to easily make alternative plans.   For those who are not as social as me, you may make other plans by renting a video you have been wanting to watch, or reading a good book that you have been wanting to read.

As we begin to lose the attachments to our desires, we feel less lonely, thereby ending our own suffering.  Isn’t that pretty terrific? With love and light to you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)