Outgrowing Emotional Dependency

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With my recent emotional healing process,  I have finally outgrown my emotional dependency of others and rely on my higher self.  This has been an arduous path as I imagine this experience to be similar to children leaving home for the first time.  Because of my dysfunctional childhood history, I never truly grew up and left home emotionally. Even after I left my parents’ home, I continue to form dependencies with boyfriends, my ex-husband, friends, and others.  This emotional dependency kept me a prisoner in the jail I created for myself.

Since practicing emotional release and observing ego work, I have begun to grow up emotionally and learned to follow my higher self as my guide. Growing up emotionally means to stand on our own two feet without depending on another, whether on a parent, parental figure, partner, or friend. It is being able to sooth and comfort ourselves when things get hard in our lives, resolving our own problems, and healing ourselves without the dependency of another.   There is nothing wrong with sharing our experiences with others because it is sharing our lives, but we simply do not need another to survive.

In the past, when I had difficulties, I felt the need to run to someone to help me whether to comfort me, to resolve my problems, or to seek protection.  Now, I no longer need this from another.  After extensive self esteem work through healing my emotional wounds, I began to realize that I do not need another for any of these above-mentioned things.  I am now strong enough to comfort myself from harm or hurt in my life, have the skills to resolve my own problems, and finally, I have the confidence to protect myself without another’s help.

When I share my life with others now, it is out of want since others may enrich and enhance my life and not out of need.  When we reach this place of independence and self sufficiency, we have finally grown up emotionally.  May you find emotional growth in your life, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

14 responses to “Outgrowing Emotional Dependency”

  1. Yay! Congrats to you! I have and continue to struggle with this everyday but it has gotten easier and better everyday. Happy for you!

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    1. You will get there soon also; I just feel it. When you do, you will feel so blessed to be given this freedom and peace within. Healing love and light to you, always, Brooke

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      1. Thank you, Brooke, you are such a beautiful soul and I am so glad I have gotten to peek into your journey and you mine. I always appreciate your comments!

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    1. Thanks for sharing my post and thoughts with others! Blessings, Brooke

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  2. Dear Brooke,
    Thank you. Knowing you’re complete within yourself is an enormous shift in perception for many. YAY for daring to write what so many are struggling with or finding!
    Blessings,
    Brenda

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    1. You are most welcome! I am so glad we have similar experiences that we can share. May the light of love shine on you always, Brooke

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  3. I am here RIGHT NOW and it has been GREATLY pushed b/c of the entrance of my Divine Flame in my life very recently. No, I am not seeking a sexual relationship with this man – not now – but just a friendship (the rest is up to God). So now after connecting so profoundly deeply with my truth reflected completely by this man I can clearly see that my life has clearly reached a place that you just mentioned. NO CODEPENDENCY whatsoever. Not with hubby (soon to be Beloved X-hubby) and not with Twin Flame just with me and my life so that (as my energies call it) I am “Stripped Clean”. It is so very powerful to read about this transformation from you b/c I know this is where I am and although I am a person with great Faith – it is very scary. Just working on living in my heart moment to moment for guidance. It is my heart that is guidance and I would like to say always, but truthfully for now I can say most of the time. Thank you for sharing your heart and allowing me this space to clearly look in the mirror of your Divinity which shows a clear reflection of my own

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    1. I had a similar experience except that I left my husband, and my “Divine Flame” who mirrored me in this way as you described in order to reach this new place of non-attachment. I am completely alone now for the first time in my life, and I am grateful to stand proudly alone without fear of my future of limitless possibilities. I wish you well and much happiness. Blessings of healing light, Brooke

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      1. Brooke, Hi was truly not aware I could access comments this way through the WordPress site until I was Divinely Guided today so just wanted to say Thank you and hope you are having a beautiful day. 🙂

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        1. I am so glad we have connected after all this time. Please stop by my blog anytime for a visit! Hope you are having a beautiful day too!

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          1. Hi, I tried to stop by your site and received a message “Apologies, but no results were found for the requested archive. Perhaps searching will help find a related post..”. It’s possible I didn’t click on something correctly as my body is very tired. My website is http://www.allowingthelight.com and I would LOVE to connect with you. Have a blessed (and restful) evening.

            Blessings and Beauty,
            Carolyn

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            1. Hi Carolyn, thank you for trying to contact me. I hope you are well, and we can reconnect again. Love & light!

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