PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

In an earlier post on forgiveness a reader commented as follows:

“yes, first in forgiving yourself acknowledge that you caused harm, the forgiving yourself only being meaningful If you then proceed to right the harm you caused even if it costs to you great.”

I believe the concept of forgiveness is misunderstood by many in the spiritual community.  I have observed many who continue to seek forgiveness for themselves and from others, but continue to behave toward others in the exact same manner failing to change their own behaviors, and only asking others to change their perspectives about them.  They engage in prayers on forgiveness and compassion, but miss the whole point of forgiveness that is to right the wrongs they have committed against others.

In these circumstances, we may be able to forgive them for the past harms they caused to us, but we are unlikely to tolerate future harms they continue to cause as they have failed to change their hurtful and selfish behaviors that continue to harm others.  Until our behaviors change to right the wrongs we have caused, forgiveness becomes merely a word that we say that has no true meaning behind it.

When we hurt others, true forgiveness of ourselves comes from genuine changes in our behaviors that  translates to our sincerity to treat others with honor, respect, and love in the future.  May you find true forgiveness within you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)