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Learning True Forgiveness

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Forgiveness and fear go hand in hand.  The reason we need to forgive is because others have caused us pain, and in experiencing this pain, we fear being hurt again. True forgiveness requires two things, one is a change in behavior by those who hurt us, and then we must have courage to give the other a chance to show this new change.  Both of these things must occur to experience true forgiveness, and to move forward together.

I am learning this important lesson on my spiritual journey, as I have never believed true forgiveness is possible. There is always lingering distrust of those who hurt me as I experienced abuse in my childhood, and I swore that I would never let anyone hurt me again.  From heaven, I have been given an opportunity to experience true forgiveness, but this requires me to muster all of my courage to give others who have hurt me a chance to show they have truly changed and is a new person now, as I never have witnessed true change in my life.

I am being tested to see if I can find it in my heart to believe that genuine change is possible, and the courage within to allow those who hurt me to return to my life.  This time, I will not allow fear to hinder me, as I shall find true forgiveness within my heart. Healing light and love, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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10 responses to “Learning True Forgiveness”

  1. heartofmaui Avatar
    heartofmaui

    More like ‘how many choices have I NOT made.’ LOVE it!

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    1. kundalinispirit Avatar
      kundalinispirit

      Thank you, and haven’t we all been there? Blessings of love, Brooke

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  2. JoyBender Avatar
    JoyBender

    Hi, Brooke! My heart immediately reaches out to you with empathy, but also with EXCITEMENT knowing it is energy just like yours that is changing this world! Coming from the same background, it seems we may have similar opportunities for our greatest growth and gift! We all have our own wounds and path of healing, but I wanted to offer up some of the successes I’m basking in relating to this subject.

    As a preface, after years of “holding it all together”, I fell flat on my face. http://joybenders.wordpress.com/about/ God was all I had left. Completely defeated, I began unyieldingly demanding that He deliver me from my pain. The grace of rock bottom forced me to admit God’s sovereignty and my dual identity as his daughter that is untouchable by pain and dust that is powerless and lost to the wind. Instead of Plum’s words of “Please take this,” I was ordering “JUST take this.” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGIumjD6I3M

    He did not immediately take the pain from me, but my childlike confidence allowed him to open my eyes to his glories. As I began to praise him, he took the pain and started replacing it with greater perspective, understandings, peace, joy, love, and forgiveness. Because of his healing power, pain will never again define me, but instead, my bruises become my badges, bridges, and braids. My scars have been re-shaped, and my power (through Christ) has taken the place of my pain.

    Early on, he opened my eyes to the difference between judgment and forgiveness. http://joybenders.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=243&action=edit
    It wasn’t always this way, but I do and have for some time now prayed for those who have hurt me. I didn’t and don’t want to see them punished. Judgment, I knew was and is not my right, but freedom from the pain that was initiated by others and completely out of my control was so hard to get my hands around. I had pretty much resigned to a life of pain that would not be lifted until I left this earth.

    Through the miraculous release of past pain, I can be sure that God will heal from any future pain. Knowing that I am not defined by pain also reassures me that WHEN I am hurt again, I can trust that God will turn it into something beautiful and useful. This knowledge allows me to choose to make myself vulnerable by trusting someone that has hurt me in the past but has since repented.

    I’ve rambled enough, but I do promise you that forgiveness (freedom from pain) and renewed trust are not only possible, but they are done! For about 30 years I tried “fixing” myself, but there was nothing I, or anybody else, could do to deliver me from the horrid pain that comes from being sexually abused. My healing and renewed innocence were graceful and miraculous gifts from God, and undoubtedly, they’re (along with a completely properly bordered but fresh trust) available to ANYONE AND EVERYONE!

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    1. kundalinispirit Avatar
      kundalinispirit

      Wow, thank you for sharing your powerful experiences and insights. I wish you blessings on your journey, Brooke

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      1. JoyBender Avatar
        JoyBender

        Thanks for your kind words, Brooke! And THANK YOU for being so willing to freely share and grow with others

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        1. kundalinispirit Avatar
          kundalinispirit

          🙂

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  3. JoyBender Avatar
    JoyBender

    Reblogged this on Joy for the Journey and commented:
    My heart immediately reaches out to Brooke with empathy, but also with EXCITEMENT knowing it is energy just like this that is changing this world! Coming from the same background, it seems we may have similar opportunities for our greatest growth and gift! We all have our own wounds and path of healing, but I wanted to offer up some of the successes I’m basking in relating to this subject.

    As a preface, after years of “holding it all together”, I fell flat on my face. http://joybenders.wordpress.com/about/ God was all I had left. Completely defeated, I began unyieldingly demanding that He deliver me from my pain. The grace of rock bottom forced me to admit God’s sovereignty and my dual identity as his daughter that is untouchable by pain and dust that is powerless and lost to the wind. Instead of Plum’s words of “Please take this,” I was ordering “JUST take this.” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGIumjD6I3M

    He did not immediately take the pain from me, but my childlike confidence allowed him to open my eyes to his glories. As I began to praise him, he took the pain and started replacing it with greater perspective, understandings, peace, joy, love, and forgiveness. Because of his healing power, pain will never again define me, but instead, my bruises become my badges, bridges, and braids. My scars have been re-shaped, and my power (through Christ) has taken the place of my pain.

    Early on, he opened my eyes to the difference between judgment and forgiveness. http://joybenders.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=243&action=edit
    It wasn’t always this way, but I do and have for some time now prayed for those who have hurt me. I didn’t and don’t want to see them punished. Judgment, I knew was and is not my right, but freedom from the pain that was initiated by others and completely out of my control was so hard to get my hands around. I had pretty much resigned to a life of pain that would not be lifted until I left this earth.

    Through the miraculous release of past pain, I can be sure that God will heal from any future pain. Knowing that I am not defined by pain also reassures me that WHEN I am hurt again, I can trust that God will turn it into something beautiful and useful. This knowledge allows me to choose to make myself vulnerable by trusting someone that has hurt me in the past but has since repented.

    I’ve rambled enough, but I do promise you that forgiveness (freedom from pain) and renewed trust are not only possible, but they are done! For about 30 years I tried “fixing” myself, but there was nothing I, or anybody else, could do to deliver me from the horrid pain that comes from being sexually abused. My healing and renewed innocence were graceful and miraculous gifts from God, and undoubtedly, they’re (along with a completely properly bordered but fresh trust) available to ANYONE AND EVERYONE!

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      kundalinispirit

      Thank you for the honor of the reblog and sharing my post with your readers. Love & light, Brooke

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  4. Indrajit Rathore Avatar
    Indrajit Rathore

    my dear Kundilini Spirit – i am entirely with you in your thoughts about forgiveness – but allow me to say one thing without sounding like a pontif – more than forgiveness you need to forget the pain -unless you try to leave behind that burden your forgiveness will not be fully meanigful – and I speak from experience.

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      kundalinispirit

      Thank you for sharing your insights and thoughts with me as I currently am experiencing this right now. I greatly appreciate your guidance! Blessings, Brooke

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