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The Seduction of Abuse

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As I have personally experienced abuse in my life, I want to share the pattern involving seduction by the abuser.  This is part of the abuse that keep victims stuck in this pattern sometimes for many years.  The pattern goes something like this.  The abuser will seduce the victims by showering us with attention,  including lots of emails, texts, poetry, words of love, flowers, gifts, etc.

Most victims suffer from low self esteem, and many times have experienced prior abuse maybe as children. After this period of attention and adoration, then there will be incidents of violence that may involved sexual, physical, or emotional abuse. The victims will try to physically get away, but soon the abuser will return to give attention, adoration, and love repeating the cycle all over again.

Most abusers exhibit a pattern where they shower attention and adoration for several weeks then the violence will begin.  There is then a period of reconciliation where the attention and adoration will repeat again.  The seduction techniques of an abuser is finely crafted as it is perfected to a fine art.  There are words of love, and showering of attention and adoration, and this is what keeps the victim stuck in this abuse.

The way out of this pattern is simple to break the pattern.  Do not accept the abuser back in your life, and get support and protection from your family, friends, and a therapist or counselor.  When you break the pattern, the abuser may get angry or agitated as the old pattern no longer works.  There also are shelters available to victims of abuse in most communities, so seek them out.

Victims must also heal the emotional wound that send out wounded energy to abusers.  This energy cannot be hidden from abusers as abusers can sense and pick out the victim in a crowded room filled with hundreds of people.  Try my “Emotional Release Practice,” found on this tab on my Blogsite Homepage to heal your wounded energy.  Healing love, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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4 responses to “The Seduction of Abuse”

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    Hunt FOR Truth

    I am beginning to fathom why people put up being with people that are insulting and emotionally abusive and abusive physically even… its sinking in a bit; little at a time.
    I think a breakthrough came as I began to see how I hold on to bitter thoughts sometimes and even form resentment — its like I haven’t finished learning not to harm myself.
    I’m thinking that hate is probably natural for many — to want to hate — at least subconsciously.
    I think that the abusers that you describe must be quite narcissistic… NPDs are addicted to adoring friends/fans, spouses and children that better not disappoint.
    ~ Eric

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      kundalinispirit

      You are right on point about abusers who are NPD as they are quite addicted to adoring friends and fans, and demand absolutely no criticism from their spouses and children as this is exactly the abuser that I described. Thanks for you insightful comments! 🙂 Brooke

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      kundalinispirit

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Recently, I have done so much work around forgiveness and letting go of my past as I felt this detachment for periods of time each day. It is so liberating and exciting to know all this is possible for my life. I wrote a post on it yesterday. Blessings of peace to you! Brooke

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    kundalinispirit

    I totally agree so I added some additional information about healing the energy field from emotional trauma in my article. Thanks always for your insightful thoughts! 🙂 Brooke

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