Fear: Real or Perceived

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I recently have observed behaviors in myself and others involving fear and wanted to share some insights.  Fear is created by our egos.  Fear can be helpful, such as when we are in real dangers. For example, we are about to be struck by a vehicle or our home is being burglarized. This fear will motive us to act to get help or protect our loved ones. There are also situation in our lives where we may need to take precautions and be street wise, such as when we are walking alone down a deserted street in a dangerous part of town. These are real fears.

There is another kind of fear that is perceived.  For instance, our fears are triggered by our past experienced of being hurt, or we perceive other’s motivation as trying to hurt us.  In other words, there are no facts in our present life to indicate that hurt is being inflicted on us, but our perceived fear of the “possibility” of being hurt.  This type of fear creates terrible anxiety and even depression if it remains with us for a prolonged period of time, potentially paralyzing our lives.  This is the type of fear that spiritual practice talks about that creates problems for our lives.

The key here is awareness and being able to distinguish the difference between real and perceived fear, and not reacting to this fear when it is perceived.  I use “Observing Ego Practice” found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage to help me figure out the difference.  Once you practice Observing Ego Practice regularly, you will be able to use this practice reflexively or instantaneously without going through each step, so you can make a judgement within seconds before reacting to the fear.  Hope this helps you, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

 

4 responses to “Fear: Real or Perceived”

  1. In the Stillness of Willow Hill Avatar
    In the Stillness of Willow Hill

    I feel so much more at peace when I observe my fear, as you recommend. I also write about it, but ultimately, it is acceptance of the cause (a hurt place in my childhood) that softens the jagged edges. Thank you for touching subjects that others may not be willing to share.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experience with me that always touches me. Blessings of love and healing light, Brooke

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  2. I have had such a problem with this. A close friend has PTSD and it finally caused such a rift in our relationship. I know that you should love an accept a person’s reality, but at the same time she was so fearful of so many things her life was getting smaller and smaller and the more I tried to help her see past these self imposed limitations, the more she worked to justify her fears. I feel like I failed her. But at the same time I needed to stay true to myself and I couldn’t agree to this false reality. I still have not found clarity on this.

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    1. My kind friend, you have not failed your friend as she must heal that part of herself. Unfortunately, we cannot heal others for them. Maybe being supportive and kind to her is all that she may need from you now? Infinite light and love, Brooke

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