I have been seeing a very disturbing trend lately in the spiritual community, including blog posts and through personal observation, of spiritual students believing that their spiritual teachers are their Twin Flames. I am disturbed by this because either students are jumping to this conclusion through “transference” that is projecting their erotic feelings toward their Spiritual teachers without their teachers setting appropriate boundaries to dissuade them of this psychological phenomenon, or that their teachers are actually sexually abusing them including sexual coercion, sexual harassment, or even sexual assault, and telling their students that they are their student’s Twin Flame that is why sexual intercourse between them is encouraged. It is highly unlikely that your spiritual teacher is your Twin Flame as there a such a power difference and diverging stages of ascension resulting in differing vibrational frequencies between the spiritual teacher and the student. Twin Flames by definition are equal halves of the same soul. Please see an earlier post on, “Sexual Abuse by Spiritual Teachers.”
Currently, I work with sexually and physically traumatized college students who suffer from sexual assault/violence, sexual harassment, sexual coercion, domestic violence, and dating violence. The spiritual students that I have observed and read about exhibit the same trauma symptoms. Furthermore, they are under a belief that they love and are in love with their abusers who sexually, physically, or emotionally harm them. They repeatedly return voluntarily to their abusers, and even feel that the abuse they suffered is not abuse at all as their abusers give them compassion and love. This skewed perspective is usually the result of underlying childhood sexual or physical abuse as victims do not realize that abuse is not love, as they had been conditioned to believe this due to their childhood abuse. I lived this as I was one of these abused children, and experienced these trauma symptoms and phenomenon as an adult.
What I have observed during my work with these college students is that when they first come into see me, they don’t understand why I would call their experience abuse. In one situation, I recommended therapy for this student, and after one year of therapy, she returned to my office on her own accord and filed a complaint against her abuser as her abuse was ongoing. This shows that in the year that she engaged in therapy, she was able to distinguish between abuse and love, and began to take back her power from her abuser. This experience brought tears to my eyes and gave me hope that each and everyone of us has the ability to overcome our abuse, and become survivors rather than remaining as victims. Sending healing love to all the victims and survivors of abuse out there. (Copyright 2014 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Thank you very much for this post, and for the grounded work you are bringing to others so they can recover and live more balanced lives. It helps all of us.
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You are so welcome since I am called to do this work in my life as I am a proud survivor of abuse myself. Blessings of love!
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Me too Brooke, I think that is why I appreciate your posts so much. I feel that many of us are here to do this level of healing now.
My father was an alcoholic and nearly shot me when was about 16. When I met my first spiritual teacher when I was in my mid-twenties, coincidentally my father finally stopped drinking. Our family slowly repaired. I help take care of my father now (he had a kind of stroke about 15 years ago, and my mother passed 5 years later) and my son has grown up knowing him in a loving way. It is a testament to what can be healed in one lifetime ♥
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Thank you for sharing your incredible story with me. This is a testament of your courage to face your truth and heal your past pain. I am so happy for you and your family. I send love and peace to you always!
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thank you for this post, brooke. i agree with tealas, you help us all with your raw honesty and genuine open-heartedness. thank you for speaking about something that is delicate, but needs attention. all the best to you ❤
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Thank you Audrey for your love and kindness. It is through my love and experiencing my adversities that have allowed me to share this honesty and my truth with all of you. Sending love and light to you always!
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