PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

This past week has been a busy one with student related issues and conflicts.  One such conflict came into my office involving three students having conflicts in their dorm rooms.  As they explain their perspectives and gave me their arguments, I began to reflect on my own life and circumstances. They each hung onto their perspective to be right, and could not let it go insisting that the others were wrong.

In our lives, we see people in our lives through our lenses of experience.  I had a difficult and painful childhood, and as such, the lenses of my adult life is also seen through this difficulty and pain.  I too have been in the same situation, insisting that I am right and truthfully my position has not helped me.  Needing to be right is the work of the ego, and we hang on so tightly to these perspectives in fear of losing our old identity.

I have seen through my lenses of individuals who remind me of my past.  Unfairly, I gave them roles and characters to play in my life.  I needed an enemy to blame for my troubles and failures, and when they refused to play these roles, I refused to let go of my perspectives. This is where I am on my journey hanging onto the last little bit of my past, and refusing to let go.

What we need to do is to let go of the story that we tell ourselves.  My father was this and my mother was that, and they are the bad guys in my life.  What I have learned is that when we are ready to let all this go, our egos will fight us with great resistance.  The truth that I have found is that when we heal ourselves and change our perspectives, we will see these same people very differently.  Our world changes because we have changed. (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)