PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

When I began my spiritual work during my journey, what I observed about spiritual practice is that it is counter to everything we have been taught and what our egos want.  For instance, if we love someone, we must be willing to let them go, what is known as unconditional love.  What I have been taught in my dysfunctional family is to hang onto those you love for dear life and nearly suffocate them to death, what we know as codependency or attachment.

From a psychological standpoint, spiritual practice is essentially unlearning our past, and relearning a healthier way of existence. Recently, I have been working through the issue of codependency.  I have been a codependent my entire life.  All my relationships, friendships, and former marriage were based on codependency.  In fact, I don’t really know any other way of relating. The work that I have embarked on requires that I have relationships with people, but in a detached manner that is we care about others and love them, but if they are unable to be with us or care for us, we are able to continue our life with love and care from ourselves or self love.

I have a Kundalini active friend who I prayed would come into my life and she appeared out of nowhere.  She also is one of my rock climbing partners.  We have been trying to make time to climb together, but she cancels or can’t make it since she works the night shift at her job. My initial instinct was to be disappointed by her missing yet another rock climbing opportunity.  But when I realized that I am working through codependency issues, I must be able to feel okay about her missing our rock climbing opportunity.  This isn’t just about my situation with my rock climbing friend, but everyone I interact with.

Therefore, it is recognizing the spiritual issues that we are overcoming which we need to apply them to our daily lives and experiences. May you find your way in your spiritual practice, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)