PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

Dependency is emotional attachment we begin to develop as infants. We become attached to our parents for survival.  Our egos begin to attach to those who we identify as our protectors and providers.  We learn this through human conditioning.  Even for healthy adults, we separate from our parents emotionally and physically in order to become healthy adults and parents ourselves.

For those of us who experienced childhood abuse by our parents, however, this dependency is distorted and we begin to develop conditioning and addiction to abusive, hurtful, and painful behaviors from ourselves and others.  These behaviors are then projected onto our adult relationships with others because these behaviors feel familiar.

Since I experienced childhood abuse, my adult relationships also involved abuse and violence that I sought out in my relationships because they felt familiar and it felt like the distorted love that my parents gave me.  As an adult, I became addicted to pain, abuse, and suffering, and it was only after I began to release my ego who identified with this pain, abuse, and suffering that I have been able to leave these dysfunctional dependency relationships.

I began to realize that dependency (attachment), judgment (the need to be right or better), and  resistance (the need to control) are all works of the ego.  If we do not release our egos, we will always operate under these premises, and will continue to suffer in our lives. May you find peace from suffering, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)