PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

During my spiritual journey, I have learned an important lesson.  Unconditional love means to do what is best for the person we love. This may be mean letting them go to do the work they need to do emotionally, to grow as a spiritual person, or to move on for their own growth.  If they are meant to be in our lives again, they will return.  This is a very tall order as most of us love to get love in return, to get our needs met, or so we are not alone.

This is really not love at all, but what we in the spiritual community call dependency or co-dependency. This is the romantic love we see in movies and read in books.  In these fantasies, our lovers never leave us, love us passionately forever, and never hurt us.  This is not truly love and certainly not spiritual or Divine love.

I am learning to love unconditionally, by giving up my ego’s needs, wants, and desires.  Learning to love unconditionally is a sign of death of ego. Ego or our smaller selves cannot love in this way, because ego’s needs, wants, and desires are our dependencies.  How do you know you are loving unconditionally and not living in dependency?  When our loved ones appear to reject us, we do not fight them with vengeance, anger, and hurt, but kindness, acceptance, grace, and understanding.

It is through truly loving unconditionally, and changing our old patterns of dependency that the ego can no longer survive, and we move onto a new way of being.  It is a sure sign of ascension and transcending beyond our limited world of the ego and smaller selves.  (Copyright 2015 Living Wide Awake with All Rights Reserved)