PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

In an earlier post, I wrote about the Stages of Healing Emotional pain.  As I reflect upon these stages, particularly the depression phase, I recognize the purpose of this phase.  It is the phase of learning unconditional love for others or love for ourselves.  This may sound contrary to the phase as this is the phase of emotional healing that reflects upon and realization of our loss.

During the depression phase, we come face to face with our loss and the reality before us. It is admitting to ourselves that our loved one is gone.  During this phase, we may reflect upon why this person is gone from our lives.  It may be because our love one has passed away?  It may be because our loved one has left us?  It is may be because we needed to leave our loved one?  Whatever the reason, we now are faced with this truth.

During this difficult phase of self evaluation and introspection, we find self love and must come to term with our own self esteem and worth.  We see what we are truly made of, and we find our inner strength. We begin to take responsibility for our own actions and behaviors.  It is a period of what appears to be loneliness, but it is a necessary period to look within.

It is during this phase of recovery that I realized my self worth, and that I am worthy and deserving of true love from myself and another.  The days of treating myself and others treating me as a second class citizen are over.   I forgive others for their negative and hurtful treatment of me, but I understand that I must make better choices and decisions for myself as this is part of learning self love.

I find true strength within myself as I realize I am able to stand alone without co-dependencies with others, and no longer use adiction as a crutch to survive.  These past destructive behaviors have not served me well as I repeatedly endured suffering and pain in these co-dependencies.

The depression phase or reflection and introspection period also gives us the opportunity to clearly see and face our poor decisions made through free will.  Our decisions may have hurt others and ourselves, and we begin to understand that we can change our path to a higher one.  May you find healing through self love on your higher path. (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)