PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

During a conversation with a friend, I told him that I tend to attract men who are very controlling because my father always needs to control everything and everyone around him, can be abusive, and also suffers from addictions.  My friend thought that my father has an aggressive personality.  I told him that it is just the contrary.  My family calls my father the Buddha because of his calm, seemingly mellow outward demeanor, and laid back attitude.

Our outward facades are our ego’s creation of who we believe we should appear to the outside world or the false self.  It is not who we truly are within.  This is the outward appearance we want to show the world, and we have convinced ourselves as well that this outward facade is who we really are within.

I have done this myself where I come across very professional, competent, and strong outwardly to the world as a way to defend and protect myself from potential hurt and injury by others.  I can come across very hard, critical, and judgmental outwardly to others.  I believe priests who are pedophiles hide behind the cloth to project a certain image, and I truly believe that they have convinced themselves that they are their outward image, although they continue to sexually abuse children.

Ego needs to create this facade to shield us from our realities about ourselves.  This is what I call the ego’s defense mechanism to allow us to continue to meet our emotional needs; whether they are destructive or constructive is of no consequence to the ego. The role of the ego is to get our needs met no matter what.  The key is awareness of our true reality through looking inward to find our true or higher self, and seeking that truth about ourselves no matter how deep it is buried.  Infinite light to you, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalni Spirit with All Rights Reserved)