PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

During these past few days, I discovered how best to help loved ones through their difficulties. To my own surprise, I discover that the best way to help our loved ones is to heal ourselves.  Let me explain.  When our loved ones are hurting, they come to us for support and care. What they truly need from us is not to react to their problem.

When we love someone we are less objective and more likely to project our own fears and concerns onto our loved ones.  When we are more healed, we are able to help our loved ones through their ordeal, as the focus is on them and not on us.

This is probably why many people use therapists and counselors to help them with emotional issues as good and ethical counselors will help us through our issues without becoming emotionally entangled.  When we heal ourselves, we too can become more objective in our support and care of our loved ones, since our fears are less likely to be triggered.

I am learning this through my own recovery, so I can be more supportive and compassionate toward my loved ones without becoming emotionally enmeshed in their emotional issues.  May you heal to help your friends and family. (Copyright 2015 Living Wide Awake with All Rights Reserved)