PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

When we normally speak of love, we are really talking about attachment that is our feeling towards another that we believe is love but it is really dependency and fear.  Our version of love is full of conditions, the need to possess and control another, or the demand that others never leave us.  Love is unconditional.  When we love another, we want what is best for them, not for us,  we do not list conditions they must meet in order to love them, we do not need to possess and control them to feel good about ourselves, and we are able to allow them to leave us without feeling abandoned.  This is a tall order and many of us, including myself, have been unable to achieve this tall order.

In order to achieve unconditional love, we must first understand what causes us to make conditions, demands, and want to possess and control another.  First, our need for attachments is from our emotional wounds causing dependency and fears.  We create conditions and demands of others so they can fill the voids and emptiness within us created by our emotional wounds of fear of being unworthy, unlovable, and unwanted.  We believe that if another can make us feel worthy, lovable and wanted through their actions then they can fill this void and emptiness within us.

We try to possess and control those we love by telling ourselves that we are doing this to help them, that they need our guidance, and that they need our support.  This possession and control is to make us feel needed and powerful, but it does not empower those we love and only creates more dependency and fear.  We demand that those we love never leave us, sometimes refusing even to let go of a loved one who is dying. These feelings are from our fears of being alone and being unwanted.

The truth is that no one can make us feel worthy, lovable, wanted or pacify our fears.  These needs within us must be fulfilled by ourselves through self love.  However, before we can experience self love and give ourselves this love, we must begin to heal the emotional wounds from our past.  For the past three years, I have practiced “Emotional Release Practice,” found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage, to heal my emotional trauma and childhood abuse.

The second part of attachment is releasing our egos in that ego needs to control, needs to be right, and needs to feel powerful.  I use “Observing Ego Practice, ” also found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage, in my attempts to release my ego.  For me, releasing ego has been the most difficult as it hangs on for dear life, and refusing to take a back seat to my higher self.   The need for my ego to control outcomes, and to be right is strong.

As I continue to work through releasing ego, I feel closer and closer to achieving this, and when I do, I will be free from my attachments and dependencies.  May you overcome your attachments, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with all Rights Reserved)