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THE ART OF LETTING GO – A TRUE SELECTION OF AWAKENING EXPERIENCES PART III
This is my contribution to Barbara Franken’s A True Selection of Awakening Experiences Part III. Thank you, Barbara for including me!
The most dramatic changes I have experienced during my spiritual journey during the past seven years involved letting go. This process of letting go forced me to give up my past expectations, and the familiar patterns to become the person I am today.
My life began as child moving from relative to relative until I was eight years old. When I finally united with my parents, I was sexually, physically, and emotionally abused. During most of my childhood, I suffered post traumatic stress disorder, depression, and anxiety. As a young adult, I wanted to end my life many times.
I began psychotherapy in college as I was involved with men who physically, sexually and emotionally abused and assaulted me that was similar to my family dynamic. I realized then that something was terribly wrong in my life.
In March, 2011, experienced an awakening during a meditation session that caused utter chaos and confusion in my life as I never heard of an awakening and was not particularly spiritual or religious. Thus, began my spiritual journey that transformed my life and soul path. I left my career to work with college students who have experienced sexual assault, domestic/dating violence, stalking, and sexual harassment. I left my marriage that was not serving or understood my higher path and calling.
When I arrived at these colleges to work with college students, dramatic shifts began to take place there. Suddenly, Presidents were fired, Vice Presidents left, and high level administrators were terminated. In all these situations, I had no authority to remove or terminate them, but events began to occur around me and around the work I was doing.
Now, I am evolving to a third phase of my transformation in my life and soul path. I have been told that I am coming to the end of the second phase of my evolution. It is now time for me to share my professional and spiritual knowledge as I will assume the role of teacher/educator, and pass the direct service work with college students to the next generation. However, in order for me to evolve to this third phase, I must continue to let go.
My post today is to share with you the art of letting go. This is how I accomplish this:
- Set the intention that you want to evolve and move forward to the next phase of your life and soul path.
- Fear will begin to surface, and you may vacillate in your decision to move forward.
- Begin to change expectations that are old patterns. These expectations involve what you expect of yourself and others around you.
- Begin to let go of control and expectations of outcome, and allow the Infinite to guide you. Everything will turn out exactly as it is intended and best for you.
- As you proceed in this letting go, fear will repeatedly speak to you through your ego. You may hear that you will fail, it is too risky, and you have no guarantees. This will soon pass. Work through these fears by using Observing Ego Practice, an exercise that I use and share on my blog, Awakening Journey.
- Begin to change your behavior by actively preparing and moving toward your new intentions and ventures. Since I want to teach and educate others, I am seeking opportunities in this area and working very hard everyday toward this.
- Genuinely accept yourself and those things that you cannot control.
- Imagine in your mind of being successful in this new venture or life and feeling accomplished and happy. This will help you manifest this new future. Finally, live this life you have imagined.
May you let go of old patterns and evolve to the soul that you are meant to be. (Copyright 2018 Burrowing Owl Press/Brooke Chang with All Rights Reserved)
Our Neuropathways affect Spiritual Consciousness
With the advances in neuroscience, brain research as shown that physical wiring of the brain is effected by our thoughts moving through it. During periods of sustained attention, neurons will wire together to create neuropathways directly affecting what we experience in our lives. Therefore, if our thoughts involve fear, worry, and doubt, then more neuropathways will wire together causing us to experience more of these feelings in our lives.
This is known as neuroplasticity, also known as brain plasticity, and is defined as changes in neural pathways and synapses which are due to changes in behavior, environment and neural processes, as well as changes resulting from bodily injury. Neuroplasticity has replaced the formerly-held position that the brain is a physiologically static organ, and explores how – and in which ways – the brain changes throughout life.
Therefore, in order to change our neuropathways, we must begin by changing our thoughts to compassion, kindness, and unconditional love. I have witnessed changes in people I have observed who have changed the course of their lives to more positive results in that they met their perfect mate, got the job in their chosen field, and found a community of friends they longed for. The following posts provide specific methods and techniques to change our brain’s neuropathways as follows: Rewiring the Hardwiring, Rewiring the Hardwiring II, and Rewiring the Hardwiring III.
These positive results began with changes in their thoughts, whereby their neuropathways began to change, and resulted in concrete positive changes in their lives. Along with these positive thoughts, practicing acceptance and surrender will bring further peace and bliss into ours lives. It is wonderful to see that spiritual consciousness can be explained through modern science. (Copyright 2013 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Steps to Healing Past Emotional Pain
During these past few months, I have been confronted with some deep seeded distrust as a result of my childhood abuse by and a philandering father. As an adult, I attracted men like my father into my life causing more emotional injury and trauma to my life. This has translated into distrust of men that is deeply ingrained within me. These past emotional injuries resulted in deep blockages within my sacral and heart chakras. In my attempts to unblock these chakras, I have tried the following methods:
- Letting go what you can’t control and letting go of past emotions and behaviors through intention, belief, and actions
- Awareness of triggering thoughts, events, and statements by simply observing them without reaction
- Acknowledge your fears through stating them out loud or writing them down
- Forgive yourself and others for past mistakes and failures by accepting your past
- Learning to love yourself through self care, setting healthy boundaries with others, and nurturing yourself
At the root of distrust is the lack of self love and fear. When we fear betrayal and being hurt again, we have not forgiven ourselves and others for injuring us. We have not learned to love ourselves through setting clear and healthy boundaries with others, and taking responsibility for and control of our actions that are forms of self love.
When we learn to let go of the past through clear intentions that we no longer want certain emotions and behaviors in our lives, we follow up with the belief that we can and will change them, then follow through with consistent change in our actions. Good luck with healing your past emotional pain. (Copyright 2017 with All Rights Reserved)
Sacral Chakra Healing
My biggest hurdle is my jealousy from a sacral chakra blockage caused by childhood sexual abuse. This abuse began at the age of eight years old by my father creating an unhealthy triangulation between my father, my mother, and me. My father also had many sexual and romantic partners while married to my mother. My jealousy has to do with distrust of men, and feeling unworthy due to my relationship with my father.
Recently, I have felt pain and discomfort in my sacral chakra area, and suffer an urinary track infection. When we have blockages within our chakras, we are more likely to experience physical problems and illnesses in that region of the body. Although I am treating my symptoms with antibiotics, I must clear this deep and stubborn blockage in this chakra.
These blockages occur in many layers of pain and emotional wounds. I already have removed some of these deep and stubborn layers, but I still must work deeper and deeper to clear the remaining blockages. I us the following six techniques:
1) Creative practice (Dance, art, music, singing, etc.)
2) Exercise, particularly in nature
3) Hip opening yoga postures
4) Crystal healing
5) Throat chakra opening and clearing
6) Learning to let go of your past through Emotional Release Practice
Good luck with your sacral chakra clearing and healing journey. Sending blessings of love! (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Moving Through Fear
Fear is like waves on the ocean that come in ebbs and flows. This is what I have been experiencing after a recent argument with my Twin Flame. His behaviors triggered my past injury that felt so painful that I reacted in a way I have not reacted in over 15 years. I thought that injury was healed, but I am realizing that I still am emotionally wounded.
This emotional wound causes me to behave with distrust, jealousy, and fear of betrayal. I also realized and acknowledge that this wound is within me. I believe that my twin and I share similar emotional wounds causing us to trigger each other, and share the same fear of being injured again. I have been observing my thoughts and feelings as these waves of fear hit me.
Last night, I admitted to my Twin Flame my deepest fear of no longer being young and pretty as I age. My fear is that someday in the near future, he will trade me in for a newer and younger woman. Just saying these words out loud made my fears dissipate. It connected me deeply with my Twin to share such vulnerability and deep seeded fear of unworthiness and lack.
Fear is the voice that prevents us from being injured again, but it also is the voice that prevents us from moving forward in our lives. It keeps us stuck in the same emotionally wounded place as when we first were wounded by someone we love. Facing our fears is the first step to dissipating this fear, and taking away its power to rule our lives. May you overcome your deepest fears. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Facing My Demons
As many of my readers know, I am involved in a Twin Flame relationship. This relationship will push us to our limits and force us to face the unresolved demons still within us. This past weekend, I observed myself revert back to my demon of jealousy, anger, and feeling unworthy. I also am understanding how I am relating to sex as I was sexually abused as a child.
This weekend gave me so much insight into my emotional landscape. When my twin directs his attention to other women, I become jealous even when I know these women have no interest whatsoever in my twin, and he has no true sexual or romantic interest in them. Most of his attention toward other women is his attraction to their physical appearance such as staring at their face, legs, and other body parts. I know intellectually that physical attraction is fleeting and physical appearance is temporary.
However, I also know that my jealousy has to do with my feeling unworthy and inadequate. Although the degree of my jealousy is getting better, I still allow jealousy to control me. I know I have wonderful qualities, but something in me feels incomplete. I lack that love that I did not receive from my parents, and feel the hole that still is in my heart.
Much of this feeling of lack resulted from my childhood sexual abuse by my father. This sexual abused made me feel less than human and less than a woman now. Recently, my twin and I explored sexuality beyond my comfort level, but I did not realize it because it felt exciting and stimulating. It took my twin to help me acknowledge this within me. This sexual exploration made me feel excited and stimulated, but they are from my old patterns of my past that I must change for a healthier emotional and sex life.
This is what I learned from this weekend. My twin and I are changing our behaviors during the course of our relationship. We are attempting to change our sex life to a more emotional and spiritual one where physicality becomes less and less important. This is our spiritual journey together, while we process these issues separately then we share our work together. I feel I have passed the first part of an important test, and am so grateful for my twin and my blessings. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Twin Flame Traps
As you ascend with your Twin Flames, there are some warnings I wanted to provide to those also in Twin Flame relationships. There are many pitfalls and traps involved in this relationship just as any other, but the intensity of Twin Flame relationships can result in obsessive and co-dependent behaviors.
Because Twin Flames are friendship and passion on fire, we are essentially playing with fire. Because we are so in tuned with our twin as we enjoy the same things, have similar professions, have similar missions, have similar hobbies, and have the same belief systems, we are completely in sync with our twins, and have great passion through tantra together, it is not unusual to fall into these traps and pitfalls.
The energy between Twin Flames feel so comfortable and comforting, you want to spend every hour together doing absolutely everything together because we are the same. The passion is through the roof with endless hours of tantric sexual connection. All this good vibes can easily result in obsessing about our twin every minute of every day when we have jobs to fulfill and other life obligations.
The co-dependency occurs when we are so connected energetically, emotionally, and spiritually with our twin that we lose where they end and where we begin in this relationship. We must be conscious and aware that we are still separate people with our own identity. Recently, I sat down with my Twin Flame to discuss these issues concerning me.
As Twin Flames, we communicate through unconditional love and compassion about these important issues. If we are to ascend with our twin, we must work together to resolve these issues that are even more pronounced due to the Twin Flame fire that fuel this intensity to a degree I have never experienced before with another. May you find your path back on track with your Twin Flame. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Reflections From My Twin Flame
This was a tough weekend of self reflection. My twin flame has reflected back things about myself that I do not like, and things I want to change about myself. I still face self doubt and feelings of unworthiness. I know that when I see him, it reflects back to me those things that are the same. I see in him the need for approval and affirmation from others, and as I react to him, I realize these are still emotional crutches I still have within me.
In the past, I would lash out at my partners for these weaknesses, but now I realize these are things within me that I do not like, and still need to change. My instinct is to run from these feelings and distance myself from my reality. It is difficult to face with all the dramatic changes in my inner and outer life that I still have more work to do.
It is easy to blame our twin for our own inadequacies instead of taking ownership of things ourselves. I no longer wish to behave this way anymore; it is time to grow up. What is still needing this approval and affirmation within me? Why do I still have these feelings? What is the fear driving these behaviors? As I proceed with my Twin Flame, I continue to heal and reflect on what needs more emotional work.
When I heal, I will help my twin to heal as well. So my spiritual journey continues onto the next phase of emotional recovery and spiritual growth. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Fear of Loss
I believe everyone has fears of loss and abandonment, and that is one of my emotional issues. My mother left me when I was one years old, and my father never met me until I was eight. During my formative years (1-6 years old), I experienced abandonment. After my mother and father left Taiwan for the U.S., I was left with my maternal grandparents, and when they left for the U.S., I remained with my paternal grandparents until I was eight years old. This left deep scars within me.
During my past life recollections, I remember my mother died when I was a young native American boy in another lifetime. Yet in another lifetime, I recall my father abandoning my mother, sister, and me as I watched him drive away in his truck from our family farm. These traumas involving abandonment remain with my soul to the present day.
I recently entered into a romantic relationship, I believe, finally with my twin flame/soul. These old memories and emotional wounds still haunt me. As I proceed with my love, I fear him leaving me or loving another. These fears still plaque me in my heart as I earlier attracted many other men who did leave me and love another. This time, I realize that I must live beyond my ego filled with fear and doubt.
I currently use Observing Ego Practice to cope with these fears, but something is different this time. As he has been away in China this last week, I am beginning to feel a shift within me. I am missing him less and less each day as the week progresses, and I know you will think, this is terrible. Quite the contrary, in my aloneness, I prove to myself that I am never alone and that I can be independent and care for myself. I am freeing myself of co-dependency or attachment.
It is through unconditional love that I am with this man, and not because I depend on him for my existence. When I am alone now, I know that my life can continue with or without him, and that all will be okay. We can’t control when others will leave us, love another, or die, but I know I will be fine even if that comes to fruition. Even if my twin abandons me, I know my soul will still move forward as I am never truly alone. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved).
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