PATHWAY TO JOY AND HEALING

At the root of all negative emotions is fear, and this is what I have learned.  Anger, rage, envy, jealousy, resentment, hatred, greed, etc. are all based in fear.   This fear may be the fear of being unworthy or inadequate, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of being unlovable, fear of loss, etc.

The fears you may experience depend on your emotional landscape from your past emotional experiences.  If we have experienced abuse or trauma, we may have more fears than others due to our traumatic experiences that brought real and actual fears in our past.  However, when our past fears are triggered based on current day events this is called projection or transference in psychological terms, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder if we have experienced past trauma.

I usually work backwards after having awareness that I feel a negative emotion, and I try to find the fears that are triggered.  Usually what I find about my negative emotions that another may trigger in me is less about them, and more about me.  What I find is that this person has trigger one of my fears of feeling unworthy and inadequate or fear of loss.

My situation usually surrounds authority or parental figures, like teachers, supervisors, etc who represent my parents.  I fear not being good enough and fear rejection, as I experienced this with my parents.  I have been working on healing my emotional wounds trying to let go of the hurt, rejection, and pain from my past.  In doing this recently, I have felt less triggering of my fears, resulting in less negative emotions overall and reacting much less to others.

As a result, I no longer perceive that others are trying to hurt me, but rather that others are working through their own emotional stuff that I simply have no judgment about.  I give them compassion and understanding, and I continue to feel calm and peaceful within my own life.

In the past, I spent hours ruminating over my current day perceived hurts and slights.   Now, I play my guitar, sing my heart out, make my artistic creations in glass, and rock climb with my friends.  I feel extremely blessed and grateful to have found my path to my recent emotional healing. Blessings of healing love. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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